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Introduction to multiple orgasms
Before you dive into the world of multiple orgasms it
might help to know exactly what they are defined as.
Multiple orgasms occur in succession without complete
loss of sexual arousal in between them. For women, this
means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first
orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few
minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the
woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the
same sexual encounter, she is said to be multi-orgasmic.
Men have often mistakenly believed that being able to
regain their erection as soon as possible after
ejaculation and reach another climax within some
arbitrary period of time qualifies as being
multi-orgasmic. This is false because the true
multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between
orgasms. As you will see below, multiple male orgasms
include only orgasm and not ejaculation, with the
possible exception of ejaculation accompanying the final
orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.
Of course, the concept of being a multi-orgasmic male is
not new at all. In fact, Taoists (pronounced DOW-ists)
have known about this and many other profound sexual
concepts and practices for over three thousand years.
Many of these amazing sexual secrets remain relatively
unknown even now in the age of sexual awareness and
liberation. And this despite the fact that during the
1940s and 1950s several sex researchers in the West
studied and confirmed the ability of males to experience
multiple orgasms. Perhaps this stems from a Western
world that has generally frowned upon open sexuality
until just very recently. Even now, the amount of sexual
ignorance, misdirection, and confusion engulfing our
society is astonishing. It is my hope that by reading
this guide, you will be able to greatly increase your
sexual awareness and pleasure.
With the practices and techniques you will learn in this
guide, there's a good chance you will discover and
experience one of the biggest sexual secrets your body
has kept hidden from you for way too long- your ability
to experience multiple orgasms. See the diagram below
for an average depiction of the various stages of
arousal during a single sexual encounter:
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These charts assume that sexual stimulation is
continuous, whether through masturbation or intercourse.
The chart on the right represents a male sexual
encounter in which he has three orgasms- having just two
or even having more than three is certainly possible.
The baseline is a representation of normal everyday
activity that is not sexually arousing- which means
simply not being horny or sexually aroused. Naturally,
within a minute or two of beginning sexual stimulation,
arousal gradually builds up, slower or faster depending
on how long it has been since your last sexual encounter
and how fast you are taking the stimulation, among other
factors. The plateau stage is represented roughly as a
heightened stage of arousal that will eventually lead
right into orgasm if stimulation continues. You should
also understand that the arousal stages represented here
do not have sharp boundaries- they blend rather smoothly
into one another.
Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular
orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is
reached and passed by fairly quickly as the orgasm
subsides and ejaculation has occurred. However, during a
multiple orgasm encounter, the plateau phase is reached
and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the
next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly
stronger than the previous ones, until the man decides
to ejaculate with the final orgasm he decides to have
during the encounter. Of course, ejaculation may be
optional for you. You could have several orgasms and
decide not to ejaculate at all, in which case you might
find yourself feeling completely satisfied, if your PC
muscle and your personal level of sexual awareness of
your arousal level permits. In this case, the arousal
pattern closely follows that of women and gradually
declines over about an hour's time instead of declining
very sharply after ejaculation.
Understanding how this is possible
The first question on your mind right now is probably,
"How the hell is this even possible?" Well, first you
should understand that the male and female sexual
response cycles are strikingly similar. The primary
difference between the two is male ejaculation.
Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms
if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm
because they do not ejaculate. It is reported that some
women are able to ejaculate, however this obviously
differs somewhat from male ejaculation, and this topic
is beyond the scope of this guide.
Ejaculation is the aspect of male sexuality that causes
the refractory period. This is the period of time right
after the male ejaculates. During this time, most men
are unable to get another erection or even receive
further stimulation because the sexual tension is gone
and the penis is usually much too sensitive. Since women
are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they
usually do not have this annoying feature and are able
to learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier
than men.
The first key to understanding how men can have multiple
orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are
distinct events that you can learn to distinguish and
separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and
ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in
such rapid succession, orgasm slightly before and then
tapering off during ejaculation. Remember when you had
your first few orgasms as a sexually maturing
adolescent? Most boys think having a singular orgasm is
the most spectacular feeling the human body can provide.
If only you had known about the possibility for multiple
orgasms!
The second key to navigating your way through the path
to multiple orgasms is figuring out just exactly how to
separate orgasm and ejaculation. This involves the
sexual miracle muscle, the pubococcygeal muscle, or
pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it is commonly
known. If you don't know what this muscle is or what it
does, next time you have to pee, stop the flow
mid-stream. The muscle that stopped it is your PC
muscle. If stopping the flow is difficult, then you have
a weak PC muscle and you will need to work on
strengthening it before you'll be able to have multiple
orgasms. Do not confuse squeezing your PC muscle with
forcing it to relax. If you squeeze or contract it, you
should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being
drawn upward, rather than being pushed downward as if
you were having a bowel movement. See the diagram below
for the location of this muscle:
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The entire area highlighted in blue represents the PC
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Preparing yourself
Surely you weren't just expecting to sit down one day
and start having multiple orgasms by accident! Having
multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it
will take a great deal of preparation. As mentioned
earlier, one of the first steps you need to take is to
discover your PC muscle if you already haven't. You need
to become intimately familiar with this muscle so that
you can learn to control it very precisely. Some of this
control will come with experience, but most will come by
strengthening it through regular exercise. Once you have
discovered where it is and what it feels like while
urinating you can exercise it anywhere, anytime, and
unless you're acting obvious no one around you will even
know.
It is probably best if you experiment with becoming
multi-orgasmic on your own at first, however you are
free to learn while making love with your wife,
girlfriend, etc. This guide assumes you will be
masturbating. Go get comfortable, and start masturbating
as you always would. Stop just before you reach the
point of no return (the point where you would
ejaculate). At this point, contract (squeeze) and hold
your PC muscle for a count of ten. Let yourself relax
now, and take a 10 minute break. Start masturbating
again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to
the point of no return, again contracting your PC
muscle. Continue doing this, paying very special
attention to your own state of arousal and emotional
feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own
sexual response so that down the road you'll be more in
control of it.
The million dollar moment
Once you've brought yourself to the point of no return
several times, you're probably ready to let it rip. The
bad news is all that jacking off you're doing right now
is just for preparation and self-discovery. The good
news is once you learn how to become multi-orgasmic, you
won't have to go through all this preparation because
you'll already know what you're doing. Okay, enough
excuses. Continue masturbating, except this time, keep
going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you
should notice several contractions that signal the
beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and
perhaps deeper inside of your nether regions. Right as
these contractions begin or preferably just before, but
during the orgasm, stop stimulation (this means stop
masturbating and let go of your penis completely) and
squeeze that PC muscle tight and hold it there as if
your life depends on it. You'll probably feel yourself
trying to ejaculate, but hold it back. Squeezing your PC
muscle effectively shuts off your ejaculation, if you
are successful, and erases the refractory period.
Some semen may come out, even if you are successful, but
it should not shoot out with the force it normally would
during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able
to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start
masturbating again now. It should feel like you're still
very aroused and not like you just ejaculated. You
should be able to continue for a short time until you
have another orgasm. If this is your first time, let
yourself ejaculate this time- hell, even Rome wasn't
built in a day.
If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first
time, either your PC muscle isn't strong enough yet or
you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin
squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions
have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut them
off completely. With practice you will learn the timing.
If you just had your first multiple orgasms, feel free
to celebrate in any way you see fit, you deserve it! If
you were successful, next time you masturbate see how
many orgasms you can have. If you manage to have three
of four and get upset that you can't have more, remember
how many you were having before you read this guide!
Techniques
There are many possible techniques you can use to
greatly increase your success in becoming
multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can
practice is to share your experiences in becoming a
multi-orgasmic man with your romantic partner. If you
are eventually successful, this can be a wonderful
opportunity for you to significantly increase the
pleasure you both receive during lovemaking. Or, if you
prefer, you can surprise them with your new-found
ability. How you choose to handle what you learn here,
however, is entirely up to you.
The technique for a first attempt to have multiple
orgasms presented below is one of my own creation,
however it has many subtle influences from a wide
variety of sources. Feel free to experiment!
1. The first thing you'll need is plenty of time on your
hands. Literally. If you'll be masturbating instead of
making love with a partner, make sure you'll have
plenty of privacy, in a quiet and preferably familiar
environment such as your own bedroom or house. In other
words, you probably shouldn't slip into the bathroom at
work and have at yourself during your coffee break.
2. Relaxing very deeply should be your second goal. Do
some mild aerobic exercises such as sit-ups and jumping
jacks to get your blood flowing, but don't overdo
yourself. After a few minutes, sit or lay down in a very
comfortable place such as a bed, couch, or the floor if
you prefer. Place your hands on your stomach and take
several long deep breaths, exhaling completely with each
breath. Try to picture the invisible energy flowing in a
circular pattern throughout your body as it builds.
3. When you feel completely relaxed, find your stimulus.
This can be erotic pictures of sexy women dressed in
lacy panties, pornographic movies, erotic text from a
favorite book, or even a mental image or fantasy.
Chances are you know what it takes to get your gears
working, so use that. Take the time to really feel
yourself becoming aroused and focus that energy into
your genital area.
4. Once you are thoroughly aroused before masturbating,
don't start choking Mr. Spanky just yet. Gently stroke
or touch yourself. This should be in secondary sexual
places such as your stomach, chest, shoulders, nipples,
ears, mouth, forehead, and even across your pubic hair
or thighs. If this feels unnatural or seems silly to
you, remember that becoming multi-orgasmic might require
a higher level of sensuality and sexual awareness than
you are used to. Use this opportunity to further arouse
yourself.
5. Now is the time to begin masturbating. From this
point, take things as you normally would, building up to
climax, but don't take it all the way just yet. Build up
your arousal just to the point of no return, and then
take a short break. Relax, take some more deep breaths,
and then begin masturbating again.
6. This time, bring yourself to climax, but use what
you've learned in this guide to your full advantage!
Squeeze your PC muscle as the orgasm begins and focus on
both the pleasure your body is providing yourself but
also in stopping yourself from ejaculating.
7. From here, with the knowledge you've gained from this
guide and about yourself, you are free to take your
experiences however you wish. You could easily adapt
these techniques to experience multiple orgasms with
your sexual partner if you have one, and by all means
discuss your feelings and discoveries with them. You've
probably heard it a thousand times, but communication is
the foundation of any relationship!
Overcoming problems
Undoubtedly the biggest obstacle most men will report
when trying to become multi-orgasmic is failure to
squeeze their PC muscle enough during orgasm to ward off
ejaculation. You may feel some contractions, but do not
stop squeezing at this point because a few ejaculatory
contractions are likely even if you are successful in
eventually stopping them. If you are successful, the
contractions will stop before you ejaculate and you
should be able to resume stimulation without a loss of
sensitivity, as would be present during the refractory
period after ejaculation.
Another common problem many men may report with these
techniques is failing to determine exactly where the
boundaries of plateau, orgasm, and ejaculation begin and
end. Obviously, if you cannot determine the difference
between orgasm and ejaculation, a key to becoming
multi-orgasmic, you can only succeed by accident and not
intentionally. Some men may try to stimulate themselves
very quickly and rigorously, and this is not the best
way to become aware of your personal level of sexual
awareness. Taking the stimulation slower rather than
faster will allow you to discover your personal
boundaries between arousal, plateau, and orgasm more
easily. With these discoveries you will have a much
greater chance of learning when to squeeze your PC
muscle, when to stop stimulation, and when to relax your
PC muscle and resume stimulation to experience another
orgasm.
It is quite possible that if you have other sexual
problems such as premature ejaculation, learning to
become multi-orgasmic will help you tremendously during
lovemaking. Not only will you be able to greatly prolong
the session by suppressing ejaculation until you choose,
but you will be free to release your worries and anxiety
and focus more on pleasing your partner. The list of
positive effects can be nearly endless!
Some men may wonder if age can have any effect on the
chances of success in becoming multi-orgasmic. There's
no reason why sexually mature men of all ages shouldn't
see the same high rate of success, assuming they are
sexually active and have a high level of personal sexual
awareness.
If you have no trouble reaching singular orgasms either
by yourself or with a partner, then learning how to
become multi-orgasmic may only be a matter of patience,
determination, and effort. If you do have trouble having
singular orgasms or opening up sexually with yourself
and your partner, however, then perhaps there are other
issues that you need to deal with before multiple
orgasms will be a possibility for you. This guide is not
prepared to address any problems with orgasms beyond the
relatively simple matters discussed in this section. If
you are experiencing more serious problems, please
consider consulting your healthcare provider or a
therapist. They should be able to provide you with the
professional advice that we are not equipped to handle.
Other problems you may experience during these exercises
may indicate a serious health problem. One example is
ejaculate or discharge from your penis which does not
appear or smell normal. Normal ejaculate is white or
slightly yellow in color, and only has a slight but
distinct odor. The presence of any greenish, brownish,
or reddish fluid may indicate an infection. This is
definitely cause for concern and you should call your
healthcare provider immediately. While you may
experience some slight discomfort while discovering your
PC muscle while urinating, this is a normal reaction. If
you experience any pain, however, you should stop the
exercises immediately and consult your healthcare
provider as this is also a sign that something may be
wrong. Err on the side of caution when your life could
be at stake.
A good rule of thumb is to remember that nothing
described in this guide should hurt you in any way,
physically or mentally. If it does, then you're either
doing something terribly wrong or you may have an
infection or other serious medical problem. In any case,
when in doubt, contact your healthcare provider
immediately. This may be embarrassing for you, but
remember those individuals are trained to diagnose and
treat these types of problems and they handle them every
day.
There is a multitude of other possible problems that may
prevent you from becoming multi-orgasmic at first. While
I can't attempt to address all of them, the best advice
I can give you is not to try too hard. You will not
become multi-orgasmic by simply willing it to happen and
not preparing yourself physically and mentally. Remember
to be patient, and if these practices and techniques
don't seem to be working for you, slow down, take a deep
breath, and re-focus yourself on the task at hand (pun
intended).
Source:
Multiple Male Orgasms
Written by Matt B.
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